Choosing an egg donor can be a very difficult and emotional to some. The staff at Creative Love is here to help you through all of the emotions of choosing your donor. When you look through the donor database try and take a few moments to put your emotions to the side. What's important when looking through the donor database is finding balance between finding the qualities that are critical to you and giving up some requirements that are less important.
When having a child through egg donation it is merely impossible to find a donor with exact characteristics of yourself. What’s most important is finding a donor that is most similar to you and one that meets your criteria and fits your family. Also, when looking through the donor database pay close attention to what the donors have to say about themselves. Ask any question that you might have about a particular donor. Request to see more pictures of any donor that you might be interested in. You are investing a lot emotionally and monetarily in this process and we want you to feel as comfortable as possible. Every donor on the database is unique in their own way. Often an intended parent will say they want to find the perfect donor that best matches the needs that they are looking for. We are here to help you every step of the way, but we would also like to remind our intended parents that your egg donor is only half of the equation. Your future child might inherit all the great looks and qualities of his or her father.
When choosing your donor it is important to decide if you want to work with an anonymous donor, one that you will never meet or a known donor, one that you can chose to have contact with. It is a personnel choice deciding on what type of donor you are most comfortable working with and what works best for your family. It is important to decide if you plan to disclose that you used an egg donor to your future child. If you decide not to ever disclose this information to your child then it’s best to never disclose this information to any family or friends. The only person a child born through egg donation should learn how they were conceived is through the parent(s) that they were born too. Under these circumstances then it is best to work with an anonymous egg donor and not work with a known donor that could possible want to have future relationship with the child or family.
Remember every egg donor cycle is unique in it’s own way and you as the intended parent are protected through your legal contracts. One of the many different reasons the legal contract is of such importance is to protect you and recognize the Intended Parent as the legal parent to the child born through egg donation. Regardless of what type of egg donor cycle you chose the donor still must go through the same extensive screening process. Remember when choosing your donor to be pro-active in the process the entire time. You can request to review the psychological evaluation on your donor. You can request to review all of the genetic screening on your donor as well. We have compiled a list of Do’s and Don’ts to help you in your journey choosing an egg donor.