So you are thinking about becoming a surrogate mother? That is a big decision and you have a lot to think about. There is great joy in giving such a valuable gift. But it is a significant medical procedure, and you will need to be prepared for that.
In addition to the medical and emotional implications, there are financial implications, too. Florida law makes sure that nobody will get rich at the expense of infertile couples, but compensation is provided to defray costs, including lost income.
The first step is to determine if you can be a surrogate mother. Obviously, you need to be fertile. But there are so many other conditions that the intended parents will insist on, such as not smoking or doing drugs; having given birth to your own children, but having given birth to too many; passing a number of medical and psychological tests; stability in your life; financial stability; and a number of other conditions. In addition to the medical and psychological screening, there will also be a background check.
Assuming that you are eligible to be a surrogate, there will be paperwork and meetings, which you probably anticipated. There will be questionnaires to fill in. You should expect to be interviewed at your home, so that your environment can be assessed, as well. And of course, there will be a detailed medical screening with a fertility doctor that goes beyond a standard medical checkup.
Ultimately, the intended parents will have to pick your profile before things really kick into action. There will be a legal process to ensure that all details are understood by both parties, you and the intended parents, and that a contract is signed.
Once the paperwork has been cleared, the medical part can begin. Your cycle will have to be synchronized with that of the intended mother or the egg donor, and your body will have to begin the transformation that a woman’s body naturally undergoes when she gets pregnant. This means hormone treatments and medication, and checking that the lining in the uterus is getting thick enough to receive the embryo.
Before the real thing, you will be put through a mock cycle to make sure that the hormone and medication process works properly on your body. This trial run is to avoid removing an egg from the intended mother or donor before it is certain that there is a womb waiting for it.
Although in natural pregnancy a woman usually keeps somewhat close tabs on the baby’s progress, with surrogacy there is much more to do. The baby’s progress will be monitored, of course, but there is also the ongoing medical support required to ensure that the surrogate’s chemical and hormonal balance is in sync with each stage of pregnancy. There is a good chance that it will not be just the doctor monitoring your progress; the intended parents will be watching keenly, in many cases attending appointments with you and paying close attention to every development.Return to Blog