You’re most likely equal parts excited, confused, nervous, and happy. If you’ve made the decision to move forward with surrogacy, then your life is about to change in the most amazing ways. And it all begins with matching the intended parents with the surrogate. This is such an important part of the journey and it should be taken seriously and approached with knowledge and empathy.
The matching process represents the foundation of your entire surrogacy experience, creating connections that often last a lifetime. We are creating life. This is an incredible moment for all involved and we are so honored to be a part of it.
With over 15 years guiding hundreds of families through this delicate process, I’ve discovered that the right match combines both heart and science, bringing together individuals who share values, communication styles, and expectations about this incredible journey.
Key Takeaways
- Agency-guided matching dramatically increases your chances of finding the perfect match by providing pre-screened candidates, legal protection, and expert support throughout the entire process.
- Both parties should prioritize shared values and clear communication about expectations during the matching phase to build a strong foundation for the journey ahead.
- The most successful surrogate-parent relationships develop when both sides approach matching with openness, honesty, and mutual respect for each other’s boundaries and needs.
Understanding how an Intended Parent(s) and Surrogates are Matched
Whether you are an Intended Parent(s) or a Surrogate Mother, understanding how you are matched is important. For both parties, the matching process is different and can have carry different options. The two most common options when it comes to matching with the other party are A) matching through a surrogacy agency and B) matching directly.
For both Intended Parent(s) and Surrogate Mothers, matching directly is the less common option as it requires you to find each other and make agreements, often times without any legal representation, on the surrogacy process. This option can work if the Intended Parent(s) and Surrogate Mother already know each other (being of family or really close friends) and trust each other to embark on this journey. [source]
The more common option, however, is matching through a Florida surrogacy agency. When choosing to embark on the surrogacy journey, whether as an Intended Parent(s) or Surrogate Mother, going the route of working with an agency has many advantages, many of which positively impact the matching process. [source]
Two Paths to Finding Your Match
- Independent Matching – Finding each other directly (less common)
- Agency-Guided Matching – Working with professionals like Creative Love (recommended)
Intended Parents Working with a Surrogacy Agency
For Intended Parent(s), when you begin working with a surrogacy agency, you have a resource that already has pre-screened surrogates ready to match with you. In addition, some surrogacy agencies, such as Creative Love Egg Donor & Surrogacy Agency, also have Egg Donors pre-screened and ready to work with.
This helps you during the matching process as you will be able to review surrogate and egg donor applications to find the right fit for you and your family.
In addition to the matching process, by working with an experienced surrogacy agency, you can rest assured that you will be guided throughout your surrogacy journey by professionals who have been through the process many times before. Learn more about our surrogacy program here.
For Intended Parents:
- Access to pre-screened, qualified surrogates
- Professional guidance throughoutthe selection process
- Compatibility-focused matching
- Support with any needed egg donor selection
- Expert navigation through legal and medical steps
Surrogate Mothers Working with a Surrogacy Agency
For Surrogate Mothers looking to match with an Intended Parent(s), choosing to work with a surrogacy agency also has many benefits.
For starters, working with and being represented by an experienced surrogacy agency, such as Creative Love, can ensure that the Intended Parent(s) you match with have been screened and share similar values with you, most importantly that they will be a great fit and family for the baby that will be growing inside you.
In addition, by working with a surrogacy agency you can be sure that you will be properly compensated for your journey, as well as have the experience and know-how to back you throughout your journey, from the vey beginning and throughout your pregnancy. Learn more about becoming a surrogate mother with Creative Love by clicking here.
For Surrogate Mothers:
- Match with verified, committed, intended parents
- Ensured fair compensation
- Protection of your rights and well-being
- Complete support throughout your pregnancy journey
- Connection with parents who share your values
Finding Your Perfect Surrogate Match
Surrogate mothers truly rank among the most selfless people in the world. After 15+ years helping intended parents find their perfect match, I’ve learned what makes a surrogate truly exceptional.
Why Surrogate Quality Matters So Much
- Your journey to surrogacy likely involved emotional challenges
- You’ve invested time, money, and hope in this path
- The surrogate carries your most precious dreams
- Finding the right match creates the foundation for success
Our Elite Surrogate Standards
We reject many applicants because we refuse to compromise on quality.
Here’s what we look for:
- Joyful pregnancy history – She genuinely loved being pregnant before
- Clean medical record – Full-term pregnancies without complications
- Excellent health profile – Optimal BMI, non-smoker, nutritionally aware
- Emotional stability – Psychological screening confirms she’s grounded and reliable
- Financial security – Free from financial stress that could impact the journey
- Stable living situation – No major life changes planned during surrogacy
- Strong support network – Supportive partner and/or family members
Beyond the Basics: Finding Your Perfect Match
- We consider your specific preferences and needs
- Cultural compatibility between families matters
- Communication styles should align
- Shared views on key pregnancy decisions
- Geographic proximity when possible
What Makes a Strong Match
- Shared views on critical pregnancy decisions
- Compatible communication styles
- Similar expectations about relationship during pregnancy
- Agreement on key contract terms
- Mutual respect and understanding
Why Our Screening Process Stands Out
- Multi-stage evaluation over several weeks
- Independent psychological assessment
- Thorough medical history review
- Lifestyle evaluation beyond basic requirements
- Comprehensive background screening
The Creative Love Difference
With over 15 years of guiding families through this process, we understand what makes matches successful. Our personalized approach ensures both parties feel confident and comfortable throughout the journey.
Ready to find your perfect match? Get your questions answered about our surrogate matching process today.
Finding Your Amazing Surrogate
- First, we understand your specific needs and preferences
- We present carefully pre-screened candidates who meet our rigorous standards
- You review profiles of potential matches
- We arrange a match meeting when you find someone promising
- Both parties decide if the connection feels right
Our agency director personally oversees each match to ensure you find not just any surrogate, but the truly amazing surrogate you deserve.
Ready to find your perfect surrogate match? Get your questions answered by our experienced team today.
For both Intended Parent(s) and Surrogate Mothers, choosing to go down the surrogacy journey can be a great decision but should be made after reviewing the various steps and fully understanding how the process works. At Creative Love Egg Donor & Surrogacy Agency we have worked with numerous Intended Parent(s) and Surrogate Mothers through this journey and would be delighted to work with you through your journey. We welcome you to give us a call at 954-776-9878 or to reach out to us by filling out our contact form.
Wendy Arker entered the field of infertility with a huge heart and passion to guild others on their quest to grow their own family after her personal journey with infertility and turning to egg donation and sperm donation to create her own family. Being a single-mother-by-choice, Wendy understands firsthand the unique way families are built. Whether you’re a married couple, single, or LBGTQ, Creative Love is committed to assisting you.
