Our Blog

After Embryo Transfer: Surrogacy and Egg Donor Process

How to Become a Surrogate Mother: Tips

Becoming a surrogate mother is not an obvious decision.  It is always the result of long and careful consideration.

Are you physically prepared to take in an intended parent’s embryo?  Check the requirements we have posted on our website.

Are you emotionally prepared to start the life of another person’s child? This is not an emotionally simple decision.  It can be the most rewarding thing you ever do, but it is not for everybody.

The first tip is to take a page from the Boy Scouts manual: be prepared.  More to the point, make sure that you are prepared on these two fundamental levels: physical, and emotional.

The second tip, which you should before anything else, is to make sure your partner is emotionally ready for this step if you’re in a relationship. This is not something you undertake alone.  It’s a couple activity, even if you play the lead role.

If you have a family of your own, make sure others around you are prepared for the step you are going to take.  By others, I don’t mean neighbors or co-workers.  I do mean others who share your home.  If you have kids, and they are old enough to have an opinion, you will want them to be participants, not objectors.  Above all, you don’t want to disrupt their lives with your decision.

If you have a parent living with you, you will want their approval or at least their acceptance.  Going through surrogacy in the company of a tch-tching mother is not a pleasant experience.

Getting medical approval by your current obstetrician is important.  He or she can confirm if you are physically fit for surrogacy.  You can discuss matters of birth control with him and different medication that will be required of you during you surrogate journey. There will also be prenatal vitamins to take, especially folic acid.

Once you have established that you and your team are prepared on these basic levels, the final tip is to contact us.  We have all the information you will need.  There will be additional medical tests specific to surrogacy.  We will review your medication history, including use of birth control. There might be delays, but not for very long.

The final tip is to get comfy.  Set aside a space in your home where you can relax as the pregnancy proceeds.  Remember that you will go through all the physical and hormonal changes of a regular pregnancy.  You will experience cravings and discomforts.  You will also feel the thrill of creating life.  You will feel the excitement of the first kick in side you. So prepare your comfy corner.   Stock up on all the supplies of a regular pregnancy.

Remember get ready to share.  If you are an introvert, you might not be prepared to have another couple become an intimate part of your lives, but that is what is about to happen.

Following all these tips will help you prepare to become a surrogate mother, without the stress of worry how to do it.  It’s in you.  It’s natural.  But it does help to be prepared.