So many women to choose from!
That might sound like the first line a man says when visiting a new dating site. In fact, it’s what intending parents might say when trying to select a gestational carrier in Florida.
A gestational carrier is a surrogate mother. Florida happens to be one of the states where surrogacy is actually legal. In fact, there is a strong legal framework to support surrogacy. In most other states, surrogacy is either illegal or the law is silent, offering no protection for intending parents or their gestational carriers.
So how do you choose?
Here are some of the things we look for in a gestational carrier
1. Previous experience.
If a woman hasn’t gone through pregnancy at least once, she should not be carrying another woman’s child. We look for a woman who has not only gone through pregnancy, but also:
- enjoyed all her pregnancies
- had no problem pregnancies
- taken all pregnancies to term
- delivered at least one healthy baby
If she has served as a surrogate once before, even better.
2. Health
We look for healthy women. This is important if you want a healthy baby. You want to select a gestational carrier in good physical shape. You want:
- a non-smoker
- a healthy eater
- a women who is not obese
- someone with no chronic diseases
You also want a mentally well-balanced surrogate with a positive attitude, to send waves of positive emotions to the growing child.
You want a woman with as few stresses as possible. That includes a manageable schedule and a comfortable financial situation.
You don’t want a woman who is finding it hard to cope with her own children. You don’t want a woman who is fretting over paying the bills. You certainly don’t want a surrogate who is just in it for the money, in a desperate attempt to keep the wolf from the door.
3. Legal
You want a legal woman, one who is a citizen or permanent resident of the United States. You want somebody with a clear criminal record.
This is important, because nothing causes more stress than the fear of being sighted or reported. That stress will wear off on your child with unknown repercussions down the road.
Even worse would be if your gestational carrier was dragged off to jail with your baby, or deported to some other continent.
Worst of all would be if your gestational carrier was deported to a continent where surrogacy is illegal. What would you do then?
You don’t have to go through so many women to choose from. We can help select a gestational carrier in Florida, because we’ve already vetted them. That’s one of the major tasks of a surrogacy agency.
It is our job at Creative Love to sit down with our intended parents and go over a list of many very important questions so we have a full understanding of their expectation and what they are exactly looking for in a surrogate mother. Below is a list of questions that are important to cover.
- What are the important qualities when choosing your surrogate?
- What type of relationship do you want with the surrogate during the surrogate process?
- What type of relationship do you want with the surrogate after the birth?
- Is the surrogates ethnicity or religion important to you? Are you willing to work with a surrogate not based on these factors?
- How involved do you want to be the doctor appointments?
- Does the surrogate have insurance that will cover the pregnancy?
- How many cycles are you willing to do with a surrogate to achieve a successful pregnancy?
- How many embryos are you looking to transfer?
- What are your feelings in regards to selective reduction in the case of multiples?
- How do you feel about twins?
- How do you feel about termination for birth defects?
All of the surrogate mothers that work with Creative Love live in Florida. This allows you as the intended parent to be as involved as you would like. It also allows Creative Love to be involved before, during and after the pregnancy with our surrogates.
All of our surrogate mothers are pre-screened both medical and psychologically before you meet. If your just exploring surrogacy as your family building option or ready to begin we welcome you to our office or can setup a Skype call anytime.
Pay us a visit and let us know how we can help you. We have experienced, healthy, stress-free (relatively) mothers eager to help you become the parents you intend to be.
Wendy Arker entered the field of infertility with a huge heart and passion to guild others on their quest to grow their own family after her personal journey with infertility and turning to egg donation and sperm donation to create her own family. Being a single-mother-by-choice, Wendy understands firsthand the unique way families are built. Whether you’re a married couple, single, or LBGTQ, Creative Love is committed to assisting you.
