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Can I Be A Surrogate If I Haven’t Already Had Children?

Posted on November 21, 2016

It’s one of the most frequent questions you will hear people ask about surrogacy: “How can I become a surrogate mother?” So let's answer that question now. Becoming a surrogate is not a simple process. Surrogacy is certainly not for everyone, but it is a very rewarding thing to do, for those who take it on. In the interest of public service, here are a few handy tips on how to become a surrogate mother that you might want to follow. First tip, and this is the most important one, do you really want to be a surrogate? This is a big question. If you really want the money, but you don’t really want the pregnancy, it just won’t work. And we won’t accept you if it’s not what you really want. We are called Creative Love, not Creative Finances, for a reason. Second tip, which is also pretty important, do you live in a surrogate-friendly state? Even if you come down here to Florida to be a surrogate mother, you can still face fines back home if “home” is New York or Michigan. We don’t help people break the law either here in Florida or back in your home state. Here is a list of states. If you come from one of these, we can work with you: Alabama Arkansas California Colorado Connecticut Florida Georgia Illinois Iowa Maryland Massachusetts Minnesota Nevada North Carolina North Dakota Ohio Oregon Pennsylvania Rhode Island South Carolina Tennessee Texas Utah Wisconsin Third tip, join some online discussions to hear about the experiences of other mothers who have acted as surrogates. Find out what were their joys and challenges. No two pregnancies are alike, and you will never be prepared for everything that happens. But it does help to hear some of the things that others have done and gone through, because much of it will be the same for you. Fourth tip, make it a team project. You can’t do this alone, and you certainly can’t do it with push-back from your partner or kids. You need them to be on your side, to back you one hundred percent. In fact, we won’t accept you if your partner is not on board. Fifth tip, check your health. It goes without saying that the intended parents want their baby gestating in a fully healthy body. You’ll need a complete physical and all your medical history documentation. We require no smoking for two years prior to surrogacy, and of course, no alcohol during the process. These five tips will help you prepare to become a surrogate. Give us a call to see how else you can prepare and whether you qualify. We’ll ask you to fill in some forms and talk with us about your plans and your interest, your home situation and your financial situation, and the types of commitments that a surrogacy contract involves.

Among the many requirements that qualify a woman to be a surrogate one of the most vital is that she has previously given birth successfully and is raising her own child.

The first and foremost reason for this requirement is that a potential surrogate must be able to demonstrate proven fertility and the ability to carry a healthy full term pregnancy with low-risk of complication. For this reason, potential surrogates must provide their previous OB/GYN medical records to agency personnel for review by physicians, agency, and intended parents before initiating in a gestational surrogate journey.

Many people who are otherwise perfectly healthy, will not find out that they experience fertility issues until they attempt to conceive. Some of these couples turn to surrogacy as a resolution to their struggles. To be matched with a surrogate who too, as it would reveal, suffers complications or trouble conceiving would be an ironic redundancy. It would prove to be a significant financial setback for the commissioning couple and a severe disappointment for not only the intended parents but the surrogate who committed so much time, energy and her body to the cause.

It is our responsibility that we provide the best possible match for our hopeful intended parents and a positive experience for our potential surrogates.

On a related note, it takes a very special woman to be willing to give herself and her womb so beautifully to another couple in an effort to help them achieve their dream of parenthood. Factoring in medical preparation, the span of a pregnancy and postpartum recovery, being a gestational carrier is a 9 month+ commitment. Pregnancy itself, as any mother can attest, is an emotional journey and can also take an immense physical toll. While every pregnancy is different–you may experience morning sickness with one and not another, some women develop stretch marks while others don’t–despite the possibility for variation, as a whole, one can only truly understand the effects of pregnancy as it relates to their own body and emotions, if they have experienced it firsthand.

Once a pregnancy is achieved, despite any trials or tribulations, one cannot simply opt out. It is of the utmost importance that a surrogate can not only prove to the intended parents that she can perform this duty physically (by past successes) but also that she is knowledgeable, through firsthand experience, and is mentally and emotionally prepared to her best extent for the commitment she makes to the intended parents as she embarks with them on their journey as their gestational carrier.

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